From the Social Department
Muslims world over find themselves facing many ideological and social challenges. Various forms of ills have taken root resulting in marital discord, divorce, child abuse, suicide, drug abuse and dereliction of duty becoming rife in Muslim society.
However, despite this, Muslims must be grateful that Islam provides a unique value system, unlike other nations that are trying to remedy their problems through a flawed system destined to create further complexity.
A prominent Muslim thinker wisely states : “Critics will point out the many domestic problems in Muslim societies today similar to the problems in the West. True. But that should not blind us to the key difference between the two. The problems in the West are a result of the value system adopted by it; those in Muslim homes result from deviating from their values. One is suffering by taking the wrong medicine, the other for failing to take the right one.”
The Social Department of Darul Ihsan is committed to promoting this unique value system through intensive counselling, empowerment and education. Activities of this department include:
Indeed Allah Ta'ala has given the husband some degree of authority over the wife to create a harmonious balance in the marriage. It is unimaginable that Allah Ta'ala would afford the husband a position of authority for him to oppress his spouse. Surely the purpose of such a position is to give him a sense of responsibility to guide and steer the relationship in the right direction.
Makkah: The Imam and Khateeb of the Haram Mosque, Sheikh Saleh bin Humeid has said that Islam requires from every Muslim to behave properly and decently with his wife. “A man’s guardianship (Qawama) over his wife (as described in the Holy Qur’an) does not mean any kind of subjugation or injustice or belittling or depriving of her rights. On the other hand, it warrants decent behavior and guaranteeing of her legitimate rights,” he said.
1. Dress up well for one's wife:
Dress up for your wife, look clean and smell good. When was the last time us men looked good to please our wives. Just like the husband wants his wife to look nice for him, she also wants her husband to dress up for her too. Remember that Rasullullah (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) would always start with Miswak when returning home and always loved the sweetest smells.
Do Muslim Husbands Make the Grade?
When we seek out knowledge about marriage we see that the Qur'an and Sunnah have assigned tremendous importance to the marriage contract and have distinguished it above all other contracts. Indeed the Prophet, sallallaahu alayhe wa sallam, said, "When a man marries, he has completed half of his religion and he needs only to fear Allah to complete the other half." (Mishkat) In the Qur'an, Allah says, "And how could you take it (back) while you have gone in unto each other, and they have taken from you a firm and strong covenant?" [4:81]
FIRST of all, I'd like to state that in Islam the marriage of a man and a woman is not just a financial and physical arrangement of living together but a sacred contract, a gift of God, to lead a happy, enjoyable life and continue the lineage.