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Q. I am 19 years old and attend campus. At the start of the year I saw this girl who greeted me as we passed each other. Ever since then, I always greet her when seeing her.
The thing is that since the very first day I saw her and later got to know a bit more about her, not by communicating but by observing her gestures and interaction with others I was instantly attracted to her.
Not only for her beauty but the sensitivity and warmth that she shows to people around her. Since schooling I never experienced something of this magnitude towards a girl, I would always try not to even pay attention to them. This girl is different, and I don't know what to do. I have even written a letter to her, although anonymously to tell her how I feel. I don't intend on doing anything haraam with her, but I definitely can imagine her as being my prospective wife. But hears another twist, she is not Muslim (nor Jew or Christian), although she is 10x better than most Muslims girls at varsity even those who were cloaks on Fridays. I think I like this girl. I pray that ALLAH would make her my wife after converting her to the truth (i.e. Islam) and that she is indeed everything and more than I think she is.

Please advise

A. Respected Brother in Islam
Assalamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu
It is prohibited for you to continue your "innocent" relationship with this girl, as she is a stranger to you. It is also not permissible to "observe" her in the manner that you have explained, and to create a desire for her in your heart. These are deceptive whispers from Shaytaan which are sugarcoated with her "good character and mannerisms"  intended to distract you from your studies and Islamic goals in life. You should ignore these thoughts and temptations and consider any attraction towards her as sinful. Try your best to save yourself from sins. The university is a challenging environment and you will only be safeguarded if you adopt the qualities and characteristics of piety and determination.
However, if you wish, you may indirectly pass over information inviting her to Islam. If she becomes a Muslim, you may then propose for her hand in marriage and conduct an Islamic nikah.
Remember, it is only Allah who knows what is good for us and what is not. Allah Ta'ala says in the Quran,  " But it is possible that you dislike a thing which is good for you, and that you love a thing which is bad for you. But Allah knows, and you know not " (Surah Baqarah)

Therefore we should not rely upon our feeble discretion and pray for something or someone we know not that will be beneficial or detrimental for us. When asking from Allah, our dua should be for Allah to bless us with a pious and righteous wife who will be a coolness for our eyes and a loyal companion.
May Allah Ta'ala guide and assist you and all of us. Aameen.
And Allah Ta'ala knows best.
Was salaam

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