Assalamualaikum, could you please email me the list of questions to ask when someone comes to see you -i.e. for marriage-? It would be greatly appreciated, shukran
Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wa barakatuhu
We thank you for your query and for the opportunity to be of service.
In cases of necessity one may be permitted to speak to a strange person. Hence, when proposing for marriage, one may speak to the prospective partner within reason whilst maintaining respect, modesty and dignity and ensuring that one is not in total seclusion with the person.
The conversation and discussion for a marriage proposal will differ from individual to individual. It is preferred that such a discussion is not lengthy and detail since the boy and girl are strangers to each other. One may ask/discuss certain general issues regarding the likes and dislikes of the person, the person's friends, and general activity etc.
It is important that apart from the brief conversation, reasonable investigation is made about the prospective marriage partner regarding their Islamic lifestyle, character, mannerisms, and any areas of concern regarding the person. If there are specific aspects that need to be asked which may be personal or sensitive then such communication should be done through the family of the prospective person.
And Allah Ta'ala Knows Best
Darul Ihsan Social Department