My wife has had extra marital relationship with another man and after continuous lies she has finally admitted to it. We tried to work things out. During an argument I raised my hand on her. She now says it is over. She says she has no love for me and there is no trust and she wants out. We have two children, a daughter and an infant son. What is the procedure for talaaq? What happens to the children? What do I have to do ?? Please help.
Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wa barakatuhu
We are perturbed to hear of your predicament and pray that Allah alleviates your difficult and creates ease.
We advise you to be composed and try to discuss the situation maturely with your wife. It is inappropriate for you to lift your hand on her irrespective of her conduct. Allow for a cooling period to the situation and thereafter realistically look at the different options. Whilst her act of infidelity is a serious crime, she should be given the opportunity to redeem herself and make a firm commitment to you. We advise you to seek the intervention and expertise of a reputable Aalim/Mediator to assist in resolving the matter. Talaaq is a sensitive matter and should be approached cautiously.
And Allah Ta'ala knows best
Darul Ihsan Social Department