In the verse of the Noble Quran, Allah (Ta’ala) says:-
“O, you who believe, Safeguard (Ward off) yourselves and your families against a Fire whose fuel is men and stones, …” (S. 66, V. 06)
The nurturing and upbringing of one's family is a vitally important social responsibility entrusted upon the parents and guardians of their children. A school of thought argues that perhaps this role-function of the parents and guardians is in fact THE most significant obligation in a family unit. In fulfilling this onerous calling of our Allah, the imparting of basic Islamic knowledge is paramount.
Coupled with this responsibility and calling, supervising the offspring’s careful nurturing, fostering and moulding are also absolutely essential catalysts.
Raising our children from a tender age with impeccable character, positive ethics, manners, honour and truthfulness are the hallmarks of sound parenting. As a matter of fact, everything that our beloved Nabi Muhammad (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) taught us about positive fostering and raising our children, are THE hallmarks of sound parenting. The home that is embellished with righteousness and enviable conduct (akhlaaq) shall certainly “reap-the-fruit-of-their-labour-and-love” in both the worlds. (Insha Allah)
The beloved Nabi (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) was very, very emphatic about positively disciplining our children and imbuing them with good and sound character and manners.
There is no better gift for parents than their children’s wholesome and warm akhlaaq.
In one of the famous Ahadeeth Nabi (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) cautioned the parents to inspire their children to perform their salaah from the age of seven. The fact that He (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) ordered the parents to ensure that they enforce the performance of salaah by their children from the age of ten (10), bears clear testimony to this lofty practice.
In a similar way, other acts of ‘Ibadat (worship) like fasting, learning the principles of our noble Deen, attending to the needs of the elders, etc. should also be ingrained in the life of the growing child. Insha Allah, such tarbiyyah will create a sense of duty and responsibility in the future of the child.
Sound and continuous educational nurturing is no easy task. In reality it’s a process that demands a comprehensive “25-hour-programme-per day”.
This “programme” covers a comprehensive list of all the desirable and “Allah (Ta’ala)-and-Nabi (Alaihis Salaam) -pleasing-actions”. This curriculum has to be taught to the child from the earliest childhood years.
Of equal importance for the child’s abiding love and tarbiyyah, the child should also be alerted to the many evil, sinful and ominous actions.
Constantly, the growing child should be reminded about the:-
“… the limits of Allah (Ta’ala) …” (S. 65. V. 01)
In these violent and dangerous day and age, a child must be:-
taught to choose his/her friends extremely carefully;
be encouraged to stay more and more in the company of pious and upright Ulama and Elders;
guided about the places he/she frequents;
constantly cautioned about the productive use of the social-media, and other electronic devices, viz. :-
the “tablet”; and
any other devices via which the mind and heart can easily be turned away from:-
His beloved Nabi (Alaihis Salaam),
the Sahaba Kiraam (Ridwaanullahi Ta’ala Anhum Ajmaien),
our pious Salaf-us-Saalihieen (Rahmatullahi Alaihima),
our surviving pious and illustrious Ulama and Elders
(Damat Barakaatuhum) around the world, and
the noble Deen-ul- Islam.
Darul Ihsan Humanitarian Centre